I wouldn't be surprised if she dated home on purpose. I was shocked because I had no idea he was even invited, let alone that she was excited to have him there. He obviously got upset and got our sister and mom involved to try and talk me out of my stance. Huge family fight just took place because I sounded my opinion on not wanting to partake in this inconvenient selfish destination wedding. He has been in a wheelchair since he was 16 and my family has always ever known him to be in his chair. ) Apparently between the wedding costs and needing to save up for the cosmetic surgery Steve and Jess don't have the money to pay for professional photoshop. If that was her intention, it backfired spectacularly. Me and Lexi used to be really close and she was basically my best friend. The wedding is for you and your partner, not your mom, your aunt, or your grandma. I've been married to him for 8 years. I (21M) first started dating my now ex girlfriend (21F) when we were both 16, however, we made the decision to break up before heading off to college when we were 18. She said of course. One man explained to the internet that when his sister got engaged last year, she asked his 17-year-old son to make Mar 25, 2024 · 2. Amy and Alan slept together at a party when they were both 16 and jay was the Anna chose you as her MOH. Alright, buckle up, because this is a rollercoaster. Some people asked for an update, and here you have it. It’s more so an ultimatum, Invite my plus one and we both come, or if you don’t neither of us come at all. If she wanted all her friends to be at her wedding, she should have decided on an accessible venue. You lie with the dogs, you get the fleas. Even if you do have an issues you should've consulted with Anna first, letting her know that the whole thing is stressing you. Avoid any and all potential drama. You shouldn't move your wedding for her vanity project (never heard of a surgery date being booked for a year later). My sister recently approached me to plan everything for her: bridal shower, bachelorette, and the actual wedding. Not only that, she enlisted your mutual friends as flying monkeys to pressure you. I could have ignored my fear and went anyways Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. So for some backstory, when I was 18 I was on one date with a guy who was 18 too. ) We live in America and as far as I know since Jess' surgery is purely for cosmetic purposes Health Insurance may not cover it, if any at all. My mom is going on about the wedding and she kinda indirectly advised me I was expected to be in the wedding by my sister and her fiancée. My older sister (28F) is getting married in a few months, and the preparations have been quite stressful, to say the least. Not going is the absolute opposite of making it about you. Everyone clapped their hands and I walked out. My (30sM) sister (30sF) is having her wedding at the tail-end of October, and she has decided, understandably, that she doesn't want any children to be at the wedding, which is perfectly fine. It was a big deal for me because I was the We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I (f24) just got engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years (m29) and have begun planning our wedding for early 2023 (only picked a venue so far). One anonymous woman turned to the AITA online community for their verdict after she was uninvited from her sister’s wedding and then stirred up some drama. I am 25, my sister is 29 (I also have a younger sister, 8). NTA. It's understandable to not want to be part of the wedding, but you're not even in attendance. 3. I told him I don't think I can be in his wedding party if my ex is a groomsman, and I might have to reconsider even attending the wedding at all. She’s over 30 and I personally have invited her to every baby shower, bridal shower, engagement party, her gparents 80th bdays etc. Dec 11, 2023 · My brother could get kicked out of the wedding party for just my fiancée not liking him, while her sister can’t get kicked out of it for her practically sexually harassing me. The Planing When we became adults, our political views and lifestyle choices started to clash and create tension. My fiance was married to 'Amy' (34F) before me and they had a son together 'Jay' (17F). Because my mother was very vulnerable to covid, my sister and her fiancé talked about getting married and decided to do it with just ten people as they wanted our mum to be there. Jan 17, 2024 · This situation has festered so badly that I am not planning on going to the wedding or home for the holidays this year and will go to my GFs family instead. I know we ended up together but it was still something deeply hurtful to her because she was still made fun of about it even in our last year of HS. Everything was going fine until she told me it was a child free wedding. Not that your sister is an asshole to have a child-free wedding! That's perfectly fine. I hope your niece understands that you’re always there for her as an individual, even though you’re not a fan of them as a couple. We’ve been together for 3 and a half years. 19K votes, 4. NTA to keep people from your wedding that don't approve of you and your partner. I have absolutely 0 interest in partaking in this wedding. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding. AITA for wanting to go to my sister's wedding? Not the A-hole. She also locked this date in before we knew her Even though he is not going to be in his uncles wedding. What you want is not important : all that counts is that your bf wants to go to his friend’s wedding. She knows you have pain and difficulty walking, she chose that venue, and now she is guilting you about not attending. At this point you've done everything you can. MOD. I decided to go a few hours away while she decided to stay local. Your relationship should be independent of theirs. We have the same mum but different dads. Points that make me think this: 1) Sister was giddy taking to her friend over the phone about OP's ex. You weren’t demanding she change it, you just were telling her your truth. 14M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. One of the cardinal rules of attending a wedding is to not steal the spotlight from the bride and groom. He does not stand up for his family to her at all. He has I asked her if she really wanted to be. She said “I don’t want your kids to be there,” when they were OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I want my husband to attend my sister's wedding, and told him he was the one acting selfishly and hung up on something from years ago. For as long as I can remember, my sister and I have always been close and had each other's backs. I recently found out my sister was talking crap about me to our mom. Right. Many internet users were shocked by I am low contact with my parents and sister, but apparently she is engaged and wants me to be a part of the wedding party. 9K comments. AITA for Not Wanting to Attend My Sister's Wedding After She Lied About My Ex Being Invited? I (24F) am currently in a bit of a predicament and I need some honest opinions. I believe she just didn't want to deal with a growing male teen. You decide who you want at your wedding. My family was absolutely furious, my mother most of all. But I agree that she could decline the invitation for whatever reason she chooses, but it shows how unimportant their (sibling) relationship is to OP to not attend your own sisters wedding because she won’t invite a dude OP started dating 6 months ago, I feel YTA. It’s your sister’s wedding and she has the final say on guest list. I got over it and haven't talked to him in 25+ years. You don't need to have sentimentality to not want to move your wedding date. Here’s the background: -Our parents are divorced and while my mom has always preferred my sister, I used to be my dad’s golden child. She went completely no-contact with our parents, but had slight contact with me through Facebook. My feelings are beyond hurt, to the point where I told my husband I don’t want to go anymore. • 2 yr. Asshole. I’m sorry, I love my sister, but this is a huge ask. And now they are getting married I'm sure the main reason she wants you to go is to rub it in your face that she is marrying your ex. If you had a panic attack, it would have made the wedding about you. My sister got married, I was a groomsman and very involved in the process. Now, that would be fine with my wife and I because we would just drop of my son and daughter at my wife's Sep 14, 2023 · The mom in the latest Reddit post said her daughter and stepdaughter are now in their mid-20s and "their relationship has not gotten any better. My wife scheduled it for this day because it's the only day certain family on her side can come. When she came out as gay, I was the first one she told. 7. And I’ve got to say, the ones who gave me tips on how to be petty made me laugh, but after thinking about it I decided to simply not attend the wedding. But recently, she came to me saying that her boyfriend proposed to her and the wedding will be set by the end of the year. Your mother now has to choose daughters and it isn’t you. I grew up with her dad, let's call him Curt. My sister is getting married next month to my best friend. She hasn’t been to any family events in 10 years. This thing started 4 years ago. It's now on your sister. I confronted her about it, and she admitted that she'd invited him without telling me We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. 1. I asked her if she'd do it if her best friend wasn't asked. 3trenchcoatminions. Receiving a text ststaing "mom wants you to come to my wedding" is proof enough she's not interested. AITA for refusing to attend my twin brother’s wedding? Not the A-hole. 3 years ago. YTA - BF wants to go see his friend get married, BF's friend wants your BF to be there. One thing we decided is for sure neither of us want him at our wedding. Imagine my surprise when I read it and saw that my ex-fiance was the groom. I (35F) was the MOH at my sister’s (28F) wedding. I was never that close with my ex BIL but he was a decent enough guy. I was really excited to go but now I don’t want to go anymore. on its own. Turbulent-Read-6873. The wedding is in Italy. Over the years, our relationship has become distant and uncomfortable. AITA for not giving my sister her wedding dress because she didn't invited my underage son? I (40m) have a sister (30f) who is getting married in a week. (My sister attends here and there) My bet is that sister's friend has a crush on OP's ex, and asked sister if ex would go to the wedding so she could flirt. 4. If you want to go tell them: Dear «Stepsisters name», I would very much like to attend your wedding to show my support but would like to do so as a guest not as part of the wedding party. ago. I love her with all my heart and in my eyes, she's still the silly goofball that I grew up with. Your best friend is entirely justified in saying she won't attend if people she doesn't wish to see or interact wirh are there. Period . My grandfather (82 years old), the day before my wedding, was a last minute no show because his girlfriend of only 7 months passed away of a brief illness. "Granddaddy also told me they got something in the mail about your wedding. One thing that sent it over the edge for me was that she wanted me to call and talk to her mother everyday which I was not keen on at all. She is adamant about not wanting to have a child out of wedlock, so we have been discussing getting married. What makes her an asshole is to insist on a childfree wedding, but also insist that you attend without your baby. AITA for threatening to not attend my half sisters wedding? Not the A-hole. Apparently my sister doesn't If I were to go to this wedding that I was already de-bridesmaided, I would also have to attend alone. I told my family, and sister, I don't want to go to her wedding shower 2. If her sister really understood and loved her she would understand and not make this demand . Not gonna lie, I’ve had worse things happen. You lost a friend who doesn’t care about your mental health. His eldest is from his late wife. This, however, means that I won't be attending. Here's the reason: She is an egoistic, self-centered narcissist and has made my life worse for as long as I can remember. I (30M) refused to be part of my sister's (25F) wedding. For your own mental health, you need to just stop reaching out to your sister. It’s not fair for you to now emotionally manipulate your sister to get her to re-invite Mom. If, for whatever reason, your sister/dad/family make a huge ordeal out of this and the bf ends up attending, you are still This morning, my sister 26(F) called me to tell me that her husband (they are already legally married, but they’ll be having a traditional ceremony in November) and other members of her wedding would be uncomfortable with me bringing my life partner to the wedding, after having already invited us both. I might be acting really unsupportive here and not understanding of what he wants, which makes me the ass. 2) Sister was not upset at all about OP dropping out. I decided I honestly did not want to go and told my mother. When I was 2 our father passed away and after that my sister and our other I didn’t go to my sisters wedding because I was scared of flying. We’re from the NE USA. ”. AITA For Refusing To Attend My Sister’s Wedding? Not the A-hole. She can either accept children, or graciously accept the fact that p. A couple of days ago, I overheard her talking to a friend on the phone, and I distinctly heard her say that she's excited for my ex to attend the wedding. So in July ADMIN MOD. She told me that wouldn't happen since we're all family now and she's our sister now. Especially so close to the wedding making sure it all goes as smoothly as possible. We've been close our whole lives, until my recent breakup with my ex, "Chris. That’s considered smallish to normal. We had met in college and became fast friends, eventually becoming a couple. Jul 12, 2024 · A woman who does not want to attend her sister’s wedding is not wrong because of the highly unusual circumstances, said a relationship expert and users of Reddit in response to the woman’s post. He told me I’m being dramatic, and his whole family just keeps saying NTA - tell her to have a great time, but it's not in the cards for you to attend. My sister probably has some kind of ptsd from the things she lived through ADMIN. She has worked hard to find peace . You are in essence hijacking her wedding and all associated events to promote your own engagement. It is part of my trauma; being around them for me comes with a sense of responsibility that reminds me of the neglect I suffered at the hands of my family. We were together for five years in total and were supposed to get married last summer. However around 7 or 8 months ago I found out my boyfriend Jonah was cheating on me with her. ) AITA: I don’t want to go my sister’s wedding. She always wanted a nice snow wedding in the cabins we used to go to when we were in school. After our date, I texted him telling him I had a great time and I would love to meet NTA The famous song says, “Lord help the mister who comes between me and my sister, but Lord help the sister who comes between me and my man. NTA— she should be glad. I was thrilled when she asked me to be her MOH, especially as we live in different countries so I don’t get to see my family that often, so I thought she might get a friend in that role. About a 14 hour flight one way. Don't take her assistance. I didn't. 2. Everyone clapped their hands for 30 seconds then my brother looked right at me and said their are getting married on my birthday in a year. These children are distant relations of the groom. " I do not support their union whatsoever because she treats everyone around her, including our family, like dirt even in front of my nephew, and he just accepts it. I (28F) recently made a decision that my family is calling unforgivable, but I still don't think I'm completely in the wrong here. She’s calling me the a hole telling me that I’m going to regret this and it’s ridiculous to not attend over some bad history and “your boyfriend not being allowed to come”. Her excuse was that they needed me to help out. She'll hang it over your head for all eternity. Jan 18, 2024 · NTA, your sister had the right right to pick any day she wanted for her wedding just as you had the right not to attend because she picked a day that is hard for you. Mood Spoiler: hopeful. She has no interest in mending your relationship. Remarkable-Sample122 writes: My sister, "Emily," is getting married soon. " When the poster asked the bride-to-be why the My sister was planning a big wedding in 2020, and then, of course, covid happened. She wants me to give her the same experience I've given my friend. My sister started dating a forty-five--year-old man when she was twenty. When I called my sister and asked about it she said my husband was of course fine to come but she requested that he not be in any family photos. Her need for it to be stress free is reasonable and should be respected. On one hand, it's a major life milestone and I would like to be there for MOD. Didn’t see him again for 6 or 7 years. I supported her wholeheartedly. Also note that my girlfriend was NTA I don’t understand everybody saying that she is the ah, she allowed to feel and the sister said she didn’t want a part of the wedding because she is too wise/serious. You should not attend a wedding if you don’t support the marriage, and you certainly shouldn’t participate in one. That she and her best friend would be the best bridesmaids. Everything went really fast, we never really knew about him until she told us suddenly that this guy (25M) was gonna visit our home to formally ask for her hand in marriage with our parents' blessings. I (28 M) was in a relationship with my now EX (27 F ) from ages 18-24. As you can imagine, it's hard to find a babysitter for them on a Last weekend, they got engaged and are planning on getting married in two years. I told her she wasn't my sister or my friend and I wouldn't want her in my wedding. Obviously your sister does not want one. AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding after she didn't come to my graduation? So, a bit of background: My sister and I have always had a competitive relationship. But I believe that it’s my sisters choice in what her wedding date is. Provided you're not leaving out major or key details, it totally makes sense that you're sick of your sister's bs and that you'd rather not go to the wedding of a sibling you've known for 25 years and the guy you dated for 6 years who you were going to start a life with after the two of them stabbed you in the back. It's very unreasonable to ask someone to move their wedding. My husband is in a wheelchair. For a little context, my sister is technically my half sister from my dad. I (26F) have been an alcoholic for years (due to a lot of mental health problems) but have began to recover and I'm really happy with how I'm going, I'm not perfect but I'm getting there! My sister (24F) is extremely proud of me and we're each other's best friends. My parents strongly disapproved, and my sister angrily moved out. I (24F) have a sister (28F) Lexi. This woman is ridiculous if she thinks her wedding, in India will have no children. Your sister was warned that her path would lead to a rift between the two of you, and she still pressed on. I hadn’t noticed any clue that pointed to anything happening between the two of them all this time. AITA for not going to my sisters wedding after becoming the MOH. This sister messed up and you don’t have to have her at your wedding just because she says so. AITA if I refuse to attend my sister's wedding? Not the A-hole. Hi I know the title sounds bad but here me out. Jul 8, 2024 · "AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding after she secretly dated and got engaged to my ex-fiancé?" AlisonVio. Apr 23, 2024 · My sister wants me to pay for her wedding but doesn't want me to be there. This time should be about your sister, not about you, your My brother held a big party about 20 years ago saying he’s getting married again. I should change that. Original Post: July 30, 2023 (early morning, around 2:00 AM) I (30F) am getting married to my fiance 'Alan' (33M) in december. My sister is getting married this November coming up. majesticjewnicorn. “AITA for refusing to attend my sister’s wedding after she secretly dated and got engaged to my ex-fiancé?” asked user “AlisonVio” in a None of my sister's other bridesmaids are stepping up either (they all have a reason for why they can't spend more time on my sis's wedding). Two years ago, when I graduated from my Master's program, she didn't attend because she was on a retreat with her then-fiancé. Well, some days ago, I received an invitation to the wedding of my cousin “Taylor” (26F). My sister recently got engaged and is planning a big wedding, but I'm not sure if I want to attend. my (23F) sister (25F) got engaged to a guy she had known for 6-7 months. When I was 14, my mom sent me to live with her parents. I’m middle class and my small wedding in India had 600 people show up. He then dated his ex girlfriend and had his middle and youngest child with her. I said that she should understand that I want our wedding to go well, so that means I want us to enjoy ourselves without questioning if something will go wrong. I (20f) am thinking about not going to my sister's (23f) wedding. “Creating a dynamic that deters from a carefree and happy flow to the bride and groom’s Hi, it’s me again. My grandparents owned an amazing property in the mountains that has an amazing view. Now my sons dad and his fiancé want to take him out of state to his brothers wedding knowing he’ll miss my sisters wedding. Especially since it’s a special date to her and her fiancé. Trigger Warning: infidelity. I don’t get that, if op is too wise/serious to be a part of the wedding isn’t she too serious/wise to go dress shopping. I ended up breaking with her because the relationship was taking a toll on my mental health. Prior to finding out about the baby, we had only talked about marriage a little bit. Especially if they are only using you as a free babysitter. AITA for standing my ground and wanting to go? She's my only sister and we have a great relationship so not attending her wedding can cause issues. We went out to dinner and I thought we had a really great time and really liked him. Ellie's getting married in about 3 weeks, I'm her MOH and it's all very exciting, but also stressful. Even when Liam dissed you, Anna backed you up, defended/fought for you. I was engaged to my then girlfriend, Julie. Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner, and there are 8 other children aged 1 - 8, all in the wedding or invited to the wedding. I'm hurting my relationship with my family by doing so Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. " my fiancée is also uncomfortable with the idea of her being there". Fake names, Me (f26) and my sister, Ellie (f28) are very close. AITA for not attending my sister's wedding? Asshole. Thanks to everyone who commented in my first post. Your bf happiness is more important than the petty feelings you have for the bride. " Read this before contacting the mod team. I’ll also be distancing My girlfriend(26F) and myself(M24) have just found out that she is pregnant. The fact that the sister does demand this shows she has no idea what your wife has really Not wanting exes at weddings isn't a red flag either (I know you didn't mention it, but emotional events can make even the sanest person act a fool, and in this case it may be the bride who confessed she was still in love with the OP after she started dating Rick). She's been bad to many other people as well (including my whole family) but it has AITA For not wanting to be a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding. AITA for not going to a funeral with my boyfriend because of my sister's wedding? Asshole. I don’t want to go to my nieces wedding. ADMIN MOD. Me and ayla weren't on speaking terms for one month till my father made me apologize. She is having her wedding in a while & showed up at our house. Just the fact that he did this to someone random he didn’t even know just to mess with me knowing she had a crush. Feb 28, 2023 · And a recent post on the AITA subreddit just might take the dress drama cake. They still live with my parents rent free and there is so much debt they will probably be there for another 5 years. Block her friends and let the estranged family members stay estranged. My younger sister (23F) has been planning her dream wedding for over a year. We didnt know mia was a lesbain till we met Rebecca when i was in shock she yelled at me saying i was a homophob and ayla said that mia was overreacting which got me out of speaking terms with mia for 4-5 weeks. The sisters clashed on how things should be for OP’s wedding. My mum had warned me after they got engaged that i probably wouldnt be invited and to not get my hopes up, but I didnt think Sarah actually wouldnt invite me because her mum cant cope that my dad moved on and had a NTA. Last week I found out that neither my boyfriend nor my twins are invited to the wedding as my sister has cancelled their invitations (the wedding is not child free since her kids and our nephews and nieces are going to be there). Bad Family has the ability to destroy a person’s sense of self work . Child free Indian weddings are not a thing. I have three young children, 7M, 5F, 3M. The groom proposed to her a year ago at a family dinner that left everyone speechless, but very happy for them as they are longtime companions. I get it, she’s engaged to a white man and wants some Insta wedding fantasy like she’s Priyanka Chopra. My (28M) sister (24F) is getting married at the end of this month on the same day as my child's first birthday party. It's your wedding. I almost wonder if she thought thought she was going to be helping by giving you a new good memory for that day instead. A little backstory, I have a half sister, let's name her Bryony and we have a good relationship. I think I might be an asshole for not wanting to go to my brother's wedding if my ex is in the wedding Because I'm her only sister Nina said she couldn't imagine anyone else wearing the MOH dress. EDITING SOME INFORMATION: to answer the question about the biological mom. When planning, we decided on a child and pet free (ish) wedding. I’ve read all of your comments. I was a little offended He and I have been together for 5 years and our wedding is set to take place in this spring. When weddings were allowed in our country, only ten people were allowed to be there. Your wife DOES NOT need to go to that Wedding . . And often always takes her side, defends her, makes excuses for her when we approach trying to talk him out of seeing her. Hey everyone. Not the A-hole. I (28F) was engaged to my ex-fiancé "Mike" (30M) for two years. If she pulls the "true friends would find a way", counter with "true friends would understand the word No". We are 20 years apart. We don't speak super often but get on well enough. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! Follow the link above to learn more Apr 19, 2022 · Double, triple, quadruple asshole. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. AITA for not allowing my sisters service dog to come to our wedding? Not the A-hole. My father and I never got along anyway but still it hurt. Now, I am not comfortable around children of any age. My father didn't attend my wedding simply because I am my mother's daughter and he wanted nothing to do with my mother, not because he had a plus one (he didn't at that time anyway). My Dad didn’t talk to me for a My sisters wedding was in Italy, and when my dad booked the ticket to go I realised i wasnt invited - since he only booked one. If she looses her shit at that, that means she was only using you. Now a year or so back her mother got cancer In case this story gets deleted/removed: AITA for refusing to gain weight for my sisters wedding. If you’re limited on space, and especially if you and your fiancé are footing the bill for the wedding, I would tell your sister that there isn’t room for her bf at the wedding. At 19 Mia got her fiancé Rebecca. I had only seen them barely interact during family meetings. vb rl qo dg ly mp rh lh ye sq